June 5th 2017
Self fulfilling prophesy. in Misanthropic Rants.
- June 5, 2017, 7:18 a.m.
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When you label someone you’ve never even met as a hundred horrible things, stereotype their entire minority as nothing but bad, and go around telling everyone that all members of a given group are unbearable, awful, people; all you’re doing is making that group wish you’d go walk into traffic on the highway. Or that’s what it does to me, anyway. I want to see these people die.
Today in bullshit that people are saying about aspies:
“She is very temperature sensitive and whines constantly about the heat over 60 degrees. Once she asked the husband if she could open the patio doors because she was SO HOT. It was the middle of goddam Wisconsin winter ffs! (I closed em).
Anyway, I make an effort now to keep my house at a temperature warm enough for all the reasonable people of planet earth. Well, maybe a little warmer. In case of a draft. And I use the oven. For everything.”
Anyway, I make an effort now to keep my house at a temperature warm enough for all the reasonable people of planet earth. Well, maybe a little warmer. In case of a draft. And I use the oven. For everything.”
That’s in reference to someone’s mother-in-law. Fuck you, asshole. I hope you slip in the bathroom, hit your head really hard, and lie there for a few seconds, unable to get to the phone and knowing that you’re going to die.
And:
“I’m male, and I’m reasonably sure my wife is an undiagnosed Aspie. There was definitely a drop off in her interest in me, in pretty much all ways, as time went on, but I don’t think it was directly related to marriage.
The usual theory is that initial an AS’s new partner is effectively their special interest, so we get the full benefit of near obsessive interest. Then as time goes on, they get another special interest, so that level of attention fades. It’s also common for people with AS to see very secure relationships as more like bits of a landscape of their world, rather than other people with their own lives and needs, apparently. They love us, and can go into meltdown if it looks like the certainty of our presence in their lives is threatened, but they don’t actually understand that these bits of landscape need care and attention too - after all the, the aspy, don’t need the same kind of thing. And of course all that emotional stuff is scary because it’s so easy to get wrong, so it seems common that an AS person gives up trying rather than risk upsetting people by getting it wrong.
Assuming your bf is motivated enough, there are strategies for sustaining actions (rather than feelings) that will reassure you, like reminders for hugs, thoughtful actions, presents etc. It’s a love language thing, to an extent.
What can be harder is sex - I’ve seen figures saying 40-50% of NT/AS relationships end up sexless, and that Aspies have a higher propensity to be effectively asexual. Or it might be sensory overload, all that emotional stuff being overwhelming, lack of ability to read initiation, or need, and also to understand how deeply their lack of interest affects their partner. Again, with some ‘training’ (for want of a better word) and motivation it can be worked round.”
The usual theory is that initial an AS’s new partner is effectively their special interest, so we get the full benefit of near obsessive interest. Then as time goes on, they get another special interest, so that level of attention fades. It’s also common for people with AS to see very secure relationships as more like bits of a landscape of their world, rather than other people with their own lives and needs, apparently. They love us, and can go into meltdown if it looks like the certainty of our presence in their lives is threatened, but they don’t actually understand that these bits of landscape need care and attention too - after all the, the aspy, don’t need the same kind of thing. And of course all that emotional stuff is scary because it’s so easy to get wrong, so it seems common that an AS person gives up trying rather than risk upsetting people by getting it wrong.
Assuming your bf is motivated enough, there are strategies for sustaining actions (rather than feelings) that will reassure you, like reminders for hugs, thoughtful actions, presents etc. It’s a love language thing, to an extent.
What can be harder is sex - I’ve seen figures saying 40-50% of NT/AS relationships end up sexless, and that Aspies have a higher propensity to be effectively asexual. Or it might be sensory overload, all that emotional stuff being overwhelming, lack of ability to read initiation, or need, and also to understand how deeply their lack of interest affects their partner. Again, with some ‘training’ (for want of a better word) and motivation it can be worked round.”
And THAT f!@#wad just decided that his wife must have a neurological disorder, because she stopped wanting to have sex with him; and now he’s on r/aspiepartners giving advice!
If I met him in real life I’d go to prison. That worthless piece of shit! You think not getting laid is rough? Let me kindly introduce you to a hatchet.
I don’t get NEARLY enough credit for the self control necessary to keep myself from being a murderer.
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