May 26th 2017

Reading about other people's relationship dramain People suck. Cats are awesome. Dogs are alright.

•  May 26, 2017, 7:51 a.m.
 
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Is like reading about a society of people who’ve taken up large animal husbandry as a national passtime; and then wonders why their lives are so fraught with stress and problems. You can’t knowingly make dealing with something that you’re aware is heavily problematic a part of your daily life, then complain that this thing is making your life difficult, and you don’t know what to do.

I get bored in the middle of the night, when I wake up after about four hours sleep, to take more benadryl so I can go back to sleep; and there isn’t much I can do, because the Male is still asleep, and I don’t want to wake him up. So I sit here and peruse Reddit for anything even vaguely interesting to read. And once in a while I wind up at r/relationships, and I’m just sitting here thinking, “You people are so stupid”.

The titles of all of the posts state the problem the person is having, right there. So these people are already aware of the source of the issue. As an example: “I [25M] had a bad experience with my partner’s [25M] parents, and now I don’t want to meet the rest of his family at all” - So I don’t see the need for a post asking for advice. Just don’t meet his family. If they don’t like you as a result, it’s no loss, since you don’t want to see them anyway. If your fiance is hurt, he can either try to be understanding, or leave. It’s not as if not liking your in-laws is a rare or previously unheard of occurrence.

Or this one: “My [27F] best friend [27F] has become culturally pretentious and condescending since moving home from SE Asia.” - So stop seeing her. Obvious. Tell her why you’re dropping her, out of recognition for your prior relationship; then stop answering her calls or responding to her messages. Problem solved.

This is a real winner: “Me [22 F] with my childhood best friend [23 F], she’s about to get engaged and I don’t like the guy [21 M].” - This moron has two options. Either decide to endure the presence of the guy, or stop associating with the “best friend”. Unless she’s up for murdering the guy, but I doubt very seriously that anybody that stupid could concoct an effective plan for getting away with homicide.

How about: “Me [29F] with my live-in boyfriend [47M] of 11 years, breaking up but he’s making it extremely difficult and I have no idea what to do.” - Put his stuff in the yard, or just move yourself.

Or: “My[30 M] wife[28 F] of 4 yrs has a habit of deflecting criticisms by saying them back to me and it’s getting to be an annoying problem.” - Presuming he’s already told her that it’s driving him mad, he just needs to leave her. Simple. Either throw her out, or pack up your stuff and go.

These people are incapacitated by irrational and unnecessary attachment to a source of constant stress; and they’re so blind to that obvious fact that they actually have to take to the Internet for advice.

If your husband or wife doesn’t make you happy, and shows no signs of a altering their behavior long term, leave them. If your parents are abusive, dedicate all of your resources to getting as far away from them as possible. If some one is parasitizing you, stop having anything to do with them.

The vast majority of the problems that people complain about boil down to: Someone is making me miserable, but I’m too emotional to get rid of them.

I gather the fact that that’s not a problem that I have is an autism thing. And in a lot of ways autism is a negative thing, sure; but in this particular case I think it’s a radical improvement.

The only person in the last twenty years that I’ve had more emotional attachment to than I’d like is my mother, and I am successfully pulling my opinion of myself away from her opinion of me. (Go me.)

I told off, and completely dropped several good “friends” and family members, after the last presidential election, because they proved themselves to be malicious, malignant people. - And I still see people on Reddit talking about their “friend” who was a Cheeto supporter. - That’s like being “friends” with a seal clubber, or a convicted serial killer, or a member of Ku Klux Klan. - If you happen to support any of those things, then continuing to communicate with such a person absolutely makes sense; but if you don’t, you’re only giving yourself a constant source of grief by keeping them around.

I hate cooked spinach. So do I put some on my plate every night and feel bad because I don’t want to eat it? No, because that would be stupid.

If your wife is cheating, dump her. If your husband refuses to stop sexting other women, dump him. For the love of whatever god, there are other people you could try being in a relationship with.

Now, there are some that I understand the need to question. Like this one: “Decode this rant for me please. I [25 F] am trying to deal with a difficult situation with [26 M] friend” - Okay, this person needs assistance interpreting another person’s meaning. I get that. I spend most of my life unable to interpret any body’s meaning, and clear communication is vital to even the most trivial exchanges. - But posts like that are relatively rare.

And in a worst case scenario, personally, I’d rather live with just my cats and my dog than another human being; if that human being gave me more stress and negativity than comfort and positivity.